A ninety day workbook that both of you actually fill out. It won't fix everything, but it gets back some of what got buried under the client emails.
None of this is here to make you feel bad. It's here so you stop calling it a rough patch.
You sat down with about thirty seconds of quiet before one of you said "did you see that email." The food went cold before the plates were warm. Neither of you meant for it to go that way, and it goes that way most weeks.
Lights out, almost asleep, and then quietly: "If we invoice him by Friday." Either you answer and lose an hour of sleep, or you don't answer and something between you gets a little colder.
You wanted a slow morning. What you got was "fifteen minutes on the team," and an hour later you're angry at the employee and at each other, with cold coffee sitting on the counter.
You two are not failing at this. Nobody hands you a way to manage it when the person you love is also the person you work with, so you improvise, and improvising wears out after a few years.
Most of the advice out there is written for one of you at a time, never for both of you at the same table.
couples own a business together in the US alone. There's no count of the ones who quietly split up afterward.
the divorce rate for founders compared to everyone else their age. The reasons repeat: chronic overwork, and no attention left over for each other.
workbooks I could find that handle both sides at once. Marriage counselors leave the business alone and business coaches leave the marriage alone, so I wrote the one that was missing.
Sources: US Census, Shopify Copreneur Report, Sifted founder survey 2025.
You each answer on your own, then compare. That comparison is where most of the work happens, because it's usually the first time you see how differently you've been reading the same year.
How to stop work from following you to bed. One rule that holds up, and the words to use when your partner says they don't need it.
Three accounts instead of one, and a written map of who decides what, so you stop finding out mid argument that you had different numbers in your heads.
A pause word, a rule about never arguing in front of the team, and a habit of closing a fight within 48 hours, so the client stress at 3 PM doesn't become "you never listen to me" at midnight.
One hour a week where the business isn't invited. If that sounds impossible right now, this is the section you need most.
The one nobody brings up. One of you is reading and going to events, the other is picking up the kids. How to say that out loud before it turns into resentment.
I've spent fifteen years taking the same 11 PM phone call from founders. The one where they say they don't know how to talk to their partner about this anymore.
The couples books I've read either pretend the business doesn't exist, or they teach you to run better meetings with your spouse. Neither of those is the actual problem.
The problem is that nothing tells you how to handle it when the person you love is also the person you work with. That's what this is for.
I wrote the workbook I kept wishing I could hand to couples who were already halfway out the door before they came to see me.
The workbook lands in four to six weeks. Waitlist gets 40% off and the intro chapter today. You'll hear from me twice: once now, once when it's out.
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